1) In your family, who’s the best at staying connected to other relatives? Has anyone in your family created a family tree or genealogy?
2) How many generations of living relatives do you have - great grandparents, grandparents, parents, children, grandchildren?
3) If your family was having a reunion, how many people would come? Who in your family would organize the reunion?
4) Is there a holiday you celebrated recently? Who did you celebrate with? Who else do you see during holidays?
5) Who already knows about your worries for your children?
6) When you need help, who’s the best person for you to call?
7) Who’s the person who surprised you the most, by being there for you when you needed someone?
8) Growing up, who was your best friend? What would this person say they liked best about you?
9) Who do your children trust the most? Who else? Who else?
10) Which of your neighbors trusts you the most?
11) Who are the people that have stuck with you at your best and worst moments in life?
12) Can you tell me about someone in your life who really got you, you really felt understood you? (Really appreciated you)
13) What has been the most important day in your life and who was there to share it with you?
14) Who has been the person that surprised you the most when you needed help caring for your child?
15) Who have you relied on when things got crazy in life?
16) When you think about your past, who has been most supportive of you in the choices you have made regarding your children?
17) When you were younger, who was your favorite person?
18) Think back to a day when you were having a really tough time. Who was there to support you?
19) Tell me a story about a happy time in your life. Who was there with you?
20) Who was there when your child was born?
21) Think about a time in your past where you were in a crisis of some kind (financial, medical, etc.). Who did you confide in?
22) Who have you called to care for your kids in the past?
23) Who went with you to buy your first car/picked out your wedding dress/accompanied you to make a major purchase/etc.?
24) Who was the person that helped you in a really tough time that surprised you they were helpful to you in that time?
25) Who knows about what happened about this/that situation?
26) Who have you told your secrets to?
27) Who do you trust the most?
28) Ask about talents that people have in their family and who they got them from.
29) Where did you get your faith traditions from?
30) Where in the world does your family come from - who holds those stories?
31) Who has been there for you when you had troubles in the past?
32) When you think about your children, starting at the center here with you in the middle, when you were a teenager, like your children are now, who were or was there for you? To support you during this time - what difference did this make for you?
33) When you think of all the people you have been close to in your whole life, whether family or friends, who has taught you the most about yourself as a person or parent? Tell me about a time that sticks out when that person showed or told you something about being a parent that you've never thought of before?
34) Who did you consider to be the most significant people in your life growing up?
35) Tell me about a moment in your life that you are proud of. Who did you share this with? Who would you share this with if they weren't there?
36) What was the most fun thing you have done in the last 6 months? Who was present?
37) When you think of your most favorite holiday celebrated with your family or loved ones, who was there and what made it so special?
38) Who has meant the most to you in your life?
39) When were you the happiest in your life?
40) Who is someone in your life that you can call on or depend on in a time of need (crisis)?
41) Who is someone in your life that you would tell exciting/good news to
42) If you were getting married, who is the one person (or people) you would want to be there to celebrate with you?
43) Who will you call to invite to our next birthday celebration?
44) If your child was getting married tomorrow, who in your world would you dream would be there?
45) Who knows the most about who's in your family on your mother's side?
46) Who knows the most about who's in your family on your father's side?
47) Tell me about the people who have been unconditionally committed to you?
48) For all of us there's someone who will come into our lives in the future that will help us be a better person, would you agree?
So what do you imagine they will do/be to help you be a better person?
How will you be a better person when that person comes into your life?
How will your children see you be a better person?